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Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Maya's story

Where do I begin? I am 26, I have 2 kids & have been happily married for 8 years now. I have a history of unplanned & unwanted pregnancies. I have always used some form of contraception. All of which have failed. I have fallen pregnant with an IUD, on the pill & on the injection! It is so frustrating. Unfortunately when I'm pregnant I suffer from severe morning sickness & due to that I never want to experience pregnancy AGAIN!

I have had 2 miscarriages & have since had 2 abortions. I just found out yesterday that I am pregnant again (that makes this my 7th pregnancy). The first termination was not so hard, I knew my health was at seriously at risk. But after it was done I felt so guilty & weak that I couldn't have persevered. Then the second termination ripped my world apart! I have never fully recovered from it. & now to think I may have to go through it all again! Why is it that the government won't consider me for a tubal ligation? Considering my past history with pregnancy, regardless of being 26, wouldn't I be a perfect candidate? It is so unfair, I don't have $3,000 to get it done privately.

I've already lost 3kg in the last week through morning sickness! It is horrible to have to struggle everyday to just do the normal things. Morning sickness is a curse! Medicine has failed me! Is there help for women out there like me? Is there anyone in a similar situation? I would love to get someone elses opinion and or advice. Thanks.

-- by Maya, from New Zealand

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I just recently found out that i am pregnant for the 6th time. i have been married for 10 years, have two children. the youngest is off to school for the first time this year. we have a vacation booked in a few months time to leave the country. I have no wish to continue this pregnancy at all. I hate that I am yet again. The abortions I had for my first two pregnancys were the right thing to do. I harbor little guilt or feelings regarding them and I know that I did the right thing. I have also suffered a miscarriage in between my two children's birth. At this time, I pray that the decision will be taken out of my hands and that I will miscarry again. But I am not hopeful. The pregnancies I carried to babies were horrible pregnancies. The women in my family deliver very early with complications and i was no exception. I do not wish to go through this again. No labor stopping drugs, no neonatal instensive care. i have no idea what i am going to do. i have not told my husband, for he has seen the light at the end of the tunnel also. the light of not having babies in the house. his vasectomy was scheduled for next month and we used birth control at every instance. thank you for your post. i do not feel as alone in my situation as i did before i read it. i hope that however your situation turns out that it is to the best for you and your family.

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